I do not want to preach or tell anyone what to do. I do not know anything about parenting other than parenting my own son. Also, Let me make this very clear, that I can change my mind tomorrow on any statement or statements that I write today. I say this because I have changed my mind too many times since my son was born. I also want to say that what is good for me does not mean it can work for you. I want my son to know how I thought when he was growing up, what challenges I faced and how I reacted to them. If I would have had this from my mom it would at least help me gage what I was doing wrong or when I was right on track.
My parenting ideas mostly have come from things that I thought were successful or unsuccessful of my parents and other parents that I have watched. You also most include what my husband brings to the table, etc.
I thought I was a certain type of parent but I ended up a different type altogether. Yeah! I became that type of mom that I criticized constantly. I distinctly remember reading "the Baby Book" by Dr. Sears for the first time and being totally against everything he said. what was this about wearing your child and such hippie granola ideas...that wasn't me at all and most of all that wasn't what I learned from my parents. Well guess what? I agree to most of it with some caveats and some individualized tweaking.
I wore my son as much as I could even now that he is showing signs of Independence. I do not believe in crying it out. Thus my child sleeps with us for most of the night (very bad, I admit).
I am a working mom. This means that I can only do so much. My husband and I are adamant about not wanting our child in daycare not because we have a problem with daycare. I was a daycare baby. The issue is my husband and I have strong views about vaccination, We are staggering our child's schedule and his pediatrician is working with us. Because of this I am very careful where I take my baby. Having him in daycare is not an option because of this.
My husband is a stay at home Dad and an excellent one at that. My son thrives and learns thanks to his Dad. My husband Chip, goes to college, online, and takes care of Carr. Thankfully, we both are on the same page on any issues that have to do with the baby. My son and husband love each other deeply and have a very close bond. My husband knows that having the opportunity to create this bond is a blessing and I think that in the long run it will make my family very strong. My husband knows how hard it is to raise a child, and he appreciates us very much.
I wish that I could stay home instead but both Chip and I think that Chip's college degree needs to come first. Schooling is important to both of us. I found my dream and I want hime to find his. Once he finishes, we can revisit me staying at home for sometime.
Being a working mom, many things that I wish to do for my son have to be modified to fit our situation. It is my wish that my baby eat healthy and homemade foods. Unfortunately, I couldn't find the energy or the time to make this happen. So I stopped beating myself up for this and compromised. I jar feed my child organic and I add some natural element to it. An example of this:
I fed my son a jar of herb chicken and pasta and gave him steamed green beans as finger food. I always give Carr dessert, pears and prunes tonight and I added small grapes cut up in fours.
He now is having breakfast, snack, lunch, snack and dinner. He drinks anywhere from 28 ounces to 32 ounces of soy milk a day. He has a healthy appetite. I am starting to plan to go totally homemade now that he is on stage three baby food. I haven't made up my mind as to when to do this. I plan to talk to his pediatrician about this and see from there.
This is my baby station in the kitchen. This is where I can see at a glance what I have and what I am missing for Carr. I also freeze most of his proteins and prepare them day before.
After 5 pm everyday until 6 am I am on baby duty. Firstly, because I want my husband to rest from the parenting but mostly because I want every minute I can have with my child. I am a full-time mom on weekends. I wear my child as much as I can but chores get in the way sometimes.
I love our morning together, he normally wakes up at 7 am. We get up, have a ba. We turn on the sprout channel and we play together until about 9:30 am. Mommy needs breakfast and so does baby. I give Carr sometime to play by himself, while I start writing, reading or knitting. Nap time! Carr wakes up in great moods after his nap, we usually play and cuddle afterwards. This is our morning routine and I dig in my heels when for some reason we cannot enjoy this.
we haven't decided yet how we feel about every method out there. It really depends on Carr. What we have done so far is say a lot of no-nos and gentles. I'll have to get back to you on this topic at a later date.